Men are egotistical by nature. They are too focused on strength and prowess. They treat it as a proof of their manhood. They are uncomfortable in quietness. They have a problem keeping still without feeling awkward. This can prove to be quite a challenge during a happy ending massage. Gradually however, with their consent and willingness to participate, men can begin to appreciate calm and quietness. You can help your man become aware of pleasures not involving merely his proud member.
On the other hand, most women are clueless about their bodies or what gives them pleasure. Through outcall massage, you can help your woman discover pleasure zones. Do take note that it is important to make your woman feel safe and secure. If she’s comfortable, she will better enjoy the tantric experience.
What to Expect from Tantric Massage
The entire session may last for two hours or more. It is important that the process is not rushed. Do not just breeze through it. So, you better free up your schedule. Allot plenty of time for cuddling too.
This is an opportunity to please and appreciate each other. Touch your lover lovingly. Allow your partner to enjoy full-body sensuality. Tease his/her senses. Try different textures and different aromas. Give him/her a good combination of softness and firmness.
We’ve talked about aroma. Just remember that subtle scents are better. The objective is to stimulate your lover’s senses. Avoid anything that may irritate him/her. Finally, as the giver, you should wear comfortably soft clothing. So now, we begin.
Start with a warm, fragrant bath.
Give your partner enough time to appreciate what you prepared in the bath. Guide him/her into the tub. Use a soft scrub and run it through your lover’s body. Caress his/her skin gently. Run the fragrant water through his/her body. Imagine as if you are washing away the stress and tension so he/she can feel completely relaxed.
If he/she wants you to join him/her in the tub, feel free to do so. Be reminded however, that this is only foreplay. It is not the main event yet. You can both feel aroused. You can enjoy it but resist the temptation to go all the way. Remember, you have an entire evening planned out. You can face each other and perform the deep breathing exercises here too.
After the bath, dry his/her body with towel. Cover him/her up with a soft and comfortable robe. Then, you can lead him/her into the room.
Use a blindfold.
You can take the excitement up a notch by putting your lover in a blindfold. Make use of a silk scarf. Lead him/her into the room. Make your partner sit on the area where the happy ending massage will take place. It could be on the bed or the table.
Tease his/her sense of smell.
Prepare 3 to 5 scented items. Remember the suggestions from the previous chapter. The safest is to go from the subtle scents. With the blindfold still on, hold out the most subtle scented item under your lover’s nose. Make him/her smell it for 10 seconds. Do this with the rest of the scented items you prepared. Avoid holding it too close or too far. Make him/her smell the rest from the subtle of smells to the more exotic or sultry ones.
Lay him/her down.
Guide your lover into the massage table or the bed. Make him/her lie on his/her stomach. Rub your hands together and keep it moist with oil. Place one hand with palm flat over the mid portion of his/her back.
Tease his/her sense of touch.
With one hand still resting on his/her back, take a firm textured object with the other hand. Rub the object gently against your partner’s skin, from his/her left shoulder to the back, buttocks and down to his/her left feet. Do this slowly. Let him/her feel the sensation.
Next, take a soft textured item and run it from his/her right shoulder to the back, buttocks all the way down to his/her right foot. Stroke lightly and slowly.
Prepare at least 3 soft and another 3 rough textured objects. Run them one by one, alternately through your lover’s skin. As you are stroking his/her body with these objects, pay attention to his/her responses. You need to understand what he/she enjoys the most. You can stroke his/her body with the items once more. Remember to do it alternately. Begin with rough then switch to a soft textured item. You may even switch hands if you must. Do this for the next 15 to 20 minutes.
Give him/her a full-body massage.
After the tease, give your partner a few seconds to take in the moment. Then, you can begin with the massage. Again, it is important that you observe his/her reactions, listen to the cues he/she is giving you. These cues will help you determine whether to apply more pressure or less against his/her body.
Do not be nervous about massaging your partner’s back. As long as you avoid the spinal area, everything is safe. Start with light strokes. If you feel that he/she likes it a little harder, you can apply pressure as necessary. Do the massage with long fluid strokes.
1. Neck and Shoulders
Pour oil on your hands and rub your palms together. Keep your hands moist and warm. Begin by stroking your lover’s neck and shoulders. Massage these areas in continuous circular motion starting from the neck and moving slowly toward the shoulders. From the shoulders, work outward to his/her arms. Apply firm but broad strokes. Massage the areas for the next 10 to 15 minutes.
2. Side of the Spine
Pressure should not be applied directly to the spine. Tackle the side of the spine instead. You can begin from left to right or right to left. It does not matter as long as you meticulously care for both sides.
Stroke the side of his/her spine in a continuous movement. From massaging his/her shoulders, continue the movement to the side of the spine and down to his/her hips.
Use your fingertips for light stroking and the heels of your palms to add more pressure as necessary. Add more oil if needed. This will help make your strokes smoother and more fluid. Keep working on his/her back for the next 10 minutes. Take your time. Do not rush the movements.
3. Back of the Legs
Do not apply a kneading technique in any part of your partner’s body. Remember, tantric massage is about slow, long and firm strokes. When working on his/her legs, you should apply gentle pressure only. It will be a good idea to stroke his/her legs once again with a rough and soft textured item. Pick his/her favorites. Continue stroking his/her legs gently and slowly.
Work your way down until you reach his/her feet. Circular and continuous stroking is essential in this area. Massage each foot one by one. It is best to use your thumb for the stroking. Massage your lover’s legs and feet for the next 15 minutes. Focus more on the legs as you can work further on his/her feet once he/she is turned over.
4. Turn him/her over.
After mindfully touching your lover’s back, rest your left hand on his/her tailbone. Your right hand should be placed at the back of your partner’s head.
Breathe in deeply through your nose and breathe out slowly through the mouth. Keep your hands steady as you continue to breathe deeply. Take a few minutes before you gently ask the receiver to turn over and lie on his/her back.
5. Restoring balance in the Chakras
Once your partner is lying on his/her back, make sure he/she is comfortable. Provide a rolled up towel to support the neck and back of the knees. Now you can begin with incorporating the balancing of the chakras as you learned from the previous chapter.
6. Feet
You worked on the feet just a little from the back. Now, you can thoroughly care for it. Using the thumb is ideal in this area but if your lover is ticklish, you can opt for using the palms instead.
This is a sensitive area filled with nerve endings. Your warm touch on his/her foot is enough to give your partner a different kind of sensation. With your fingers and palms stroking it gently and continuously, you can imagine the ecstasy.
Start from the back of his/her toes. Find the fleshy mound. Massage it gently then continue at the back of the foot. Avoid applying too much pressure on the arch. Stick with firm yet gentle touching. Continue stroking from the toes down to the heel. Spend at least 3 minutes on each foot.
7. Front of the Legs
Like you’ve tackled the back of the legs, apply firm and long strokes from your lover’s ankles to the thighs continuing the stroke from the feet. The thighs and calves need gentle massaging only. Remember that your goal is to provide a pleasurable outcall massage.
8. Belly
From the front of his/her legs to the thighs, continue stroking him/her meticulously to the hips until you reach the belly. Lay your hands flat and massage this area in circular strokes in a clockwise motion. Avoid applying any pressure in the belly. It is not necessary. Try slow and gentle touching instead with your palms. Your touch should give your partner comfort. Keep caring for this area for the next 3 to 5 minutes.
9. Chest
Before continuing the massage, rest your right hand over your lover’s heart chakra. Take a few minutes here. Breathe in through your nose deeply and out through your mouth slowly.
After a few minutes, rest both hands on his/her chest. Stroke lightly and apply light pressure. Keep your palms flat as you massage his/her breasts. Gently touch the lymph nodes and apply tender pressure to the nipples. Try various kinds of strokes and pay attention to what he/she likes best. Continue with the chest massage for 10 minutes.
10. Head and Shoulders
From your lover’s chest, move your hands to his/her head in a continuous movement. Use your fingers to stroke the scalp. Spend a few minutes in this area before you run your fingers to his/her forehead. With your index and thumb fingers, apply gentle strokes to the area. Do not rush the movements. If you need more oil, apply some on your hands as necessary to keep the strokes smooth and fluid.
From the forehead, move your hands to the side of your partner’s face down to the neck and shoulders. Apply the same motion like you did when massaging the back of his/her shoulders – long, broad strokes.
11. Arms
Move your hands slowly from the shoulder to the arm. Again, use firm and long strokes in the area. Work all the way down to the wrist. Spend equal time on each arm. Light kneading in the arms is welcome. Feel free to apply the outcall massage technique in this area.
Continue from the upper arms to the wrist all the way to the fingers. Keep your partner calm, relaxed and connected.
Do not forget to meticulously care for each body part. It is all about mindfully touching your lover’s body.
Genital massage is an option that some masseuse may offer. Since you’re doing this for your romantic partner, you can feel free to involve the genitals. Again, it is something you should talk about so he/she can know what to expect and relax into the process. We will tackle genital outcall massage for men and women in the succeeding chapters.
